Becoming Her Own Hero: What It Truly Means for a Girl to Be Independent

Becoming Her Own Hero.

Every girl is born with the capability and the capacity to think for herself. No girl has to wait today for a hero to lift her up magically ; she has the resources and the will to do that herself.

For today’s young girls, there is tremendous potential in discovering what she can do. She is not limited to a role or a box that a long time ago, may have forced her to limit herself. Today, she has the power to write her own story and become her own hero.

Today’s young girl is beyond fairy tales and wishful thinking. She can and is able to carve out her own pathway ; be independent and have her own opinion and take her place in life’s chosen path.

What does this mean for the young women of today?

Start with self-worth in Becoming Her Own Hero –

The first step towards becoming her own hero and gaining independence is to understand what she is worth. She must be able to learn to trust her own instincts and not question her ability to achieve success on her own. In other words, she must know that she brings value to herself and capable of taking right decisions. Becoming confident in the face of doubt, being able to stand up for herself and defend the decisions that she may take, calls for a true understanding of self worth.

Don’t be afraid of failure –

Failures form the pillars of success. Not every turn in life is successful there will always be the failures that will be discouraging. But the power in becoming truly independent is to understand that those failures are the road to great achievement ; each failure is a mark on the path for growth and success. Every young girl must be able to understand this and move on whenever she goes through a wrong turn. Failures do not mean you have failed – they simply mean you still have many times to keep trying.

Own your own story –

Achieving emotional autonomy is vital for achieving true maturity. It is a powerful tool that can empower you to achieve even greater outcomes in life. This might be an area that is often over-looked yet remains one that will anchor you to your own story.

Set boundaries and be confident in your response to life’s challenges. Understand that your happiness does not depend on someone else’s evaluation of you. Your story is all your own ; you are not someone else’s project.

Learn to say No –

Saying no and being able to stand by it is a sign of maturity and independence. You don’t have to agree to everything in order to please anyone in life. While as a girl you are expected to be open to ideas and suggestions your family may have in your best interest, it is still your choice to say yes or no. Choosing to say no can be liberating and signal that you have achieved true independence on your own.

Financial freedom –

This is a key pillar of achieving true independence on the road to becoming your own hero. Financial independence gives you the choice of making your own decisions and leave toxic relationships or friendships when they can drag you down instead of lifting you up. It will also empower you improve yourself, invest in yourself and pursue your dreams and bring your visions to life.

Independence is also about being able to manage your finances, stretch your financial potential and use it wisely to make the right investments so that you as a young girl can build your future.

Make space for your voice –

Being independent means being able to share your voice where you must be heard. Whether you are in a classroom, boardroom or in your own community, you have a voice that must be shared and heard. This doesn’t mean you must be loud and vocal but having a voice is knowing when to use it. 

Be confident in who you are –

You are who you are – learn to be content with that. It is a true signal of independence and confidence when you understand and accept who you are. You don’t have to change something about you to be more acceptable or attractive. While you must take good care of yourself, you must be able to be confident in your own skin. It is a great show of independence, strength and maturity to be able to do so.

Tough does not mean strength alone –

Every girl is indeed her own true hero – she knows that asking for help does not mean you are weak. Resting or taking a break is not a sign of weakness and finding time to recover and heal does not mean weakness. True strength comes from being able to be kind in a world that tells her not to be. To be gentle with someone who needs help and to reach out to someone in need does not mean weakness ; it means that you have the emotional bandwidth and maturity to be able to touch others’ lives.

Uplift others –

We are at our best when we uplift others and take pride in what they can achieve. It need not always be about us or our success stories. True independence comes from empowering others – giving them our time, our support and our understanding. Real heroes know the value of giving others the chance to do better and understand that a hand of support is never in vain.

Face your fears –

Your fears are not your foes – sometimes they are your friend and encourage you to take steps that you may never take otherwise. When you learn to face your fears and overcome them, you are setting yourself free from what limits you.

You are enough, remember that. You can be your own hero and not wear a cape. Changing your mindset and equipping yourself to empower yourself starts with you. Independence is not a destination but a choice that you make daily. A mindset that can grow like a muscle – stronger, better.

When it comes to physical limitations such as PCOS to painful periods, they should not be impediments to your path forward in whatever you choose to do – rather, challenges that can be overcome.

Every girl can be her own hero and achieve true independence – and inspire other girls to do the same.